Get Over a Breakup Without Looking Messy

When it comes to love and relationships there is no handbook on how to successfully start, maintain, or end one. Every relationship is different, some more toxic than others. In the world of social media, it’s almost impossible to avoid being petty when things go sour. However, here are some tips on making your breakup as respectable as possible and avoiding the messiness.

 

Avoid Telling Social Media Your Business

We have all born witness to that dramatic couple who make up, break up and expose each other on social media every other week. Don’t be this couple. If you really love or care about someone you will not expose the most intimate secrets of their personal life. 

The best way to do so is in private or amongst friends and family. Strangers that follow you on social media are only looking for a show anyway. They will read, laugh, and go on with their lives. Meanwhile, you will have embarrassed yourself, your family, and friends. There’s nothing more cringy then watching someone make a fool of themselves on social media then delete it all the next day. Be mindful of what you post and remember that it lives forever on the internet.

 

Break Up in Person

Communicating in person is almost a lost art with the current and future generations. Technology plays a significant role in destroying our interpersonal skills. This is especially true in relationships. People rarely talk on the phone anymore. Context is constantly misinterpreted through text and social media. We have even lost the ability to make conversation without pulling out our phones when there is a bit of awkward silence.

With this in mind, extra care should be in place when breaking up with a partner. Ending a relationship is sensitive and will usually result in some negative emotions from either party. Breaking up via text, call, social media, email or through another person shows that you are insensitive. Even though things didn’t work out, respect that person enough to look them in the eye and tell them what’s what.

 

Do Not Violate Each Other’s Property

Have you ever ended a relationship or friendship and had your property stolen, ruined, or damaged? I’m sure everyone has gone through something like this at some point. Slashing someone’s car tires, smashing their windows, or breaking their phone is wrong. Not only is this wrong, but it is also illegal and can land you in jail.

Living with your significant other can make things even more tricky. Throwing someone’s clothes or belongings out on the curb is a guaranteed way to look messy in front of the entire neighborhood. Keep people out of your business and leave your partner’s property alone.

 

Take Time to Heal and Do Not Obsess

If you’re on the receiving end of a not-so-mutual breakup it can be hard. Especially when you didn’t see it coming. It’s important to take time to heal, however obsessing is not healthy. If you’re following them on social media, still connected with their friends and family, you will have to let go at some point. If you are committed to moving on you shouldn’t constantly check in on them and what they are doing or who they are dating. Breakups suck but sometimes they are for the best. Having a good support system of trusted friends and family during this time will make getting over this breakup less messy and more mature.